The essential rules for the father of the bride’s speech:
Time it right
Your speech should last between three to eight minutes, which may not sound very long, but anything over this time can start to feel like a drag – and you may lose the audience’s interest. And remember, 10 minutes should be the absolute maximum.
Go easy on the jokes
Don’t feel pressured into providing a laugh a minute. Definitely include a few jokes, along with a punchy opening line, but remember your speech should have more ‘ahh’ factor than comic moments. Leave those laughs to the best man.
Cut out the clichés
Nobody wants to hear a dry list of all the bride’s career achievements or educational qualifications, so stick to just one or two key moments. What they do want to hear about is what makes her truly special. Most dads think their daughters are ‘wonderful’ and ‘amazing’ so really try to think about her character and what makes her stand out from the crowd.
Don’t overdo the emotion
This can be a sentimental speech but try to balance the emotion with humour, so it doesn’t become difficult to listen to. This is a once-in-a-lifetime chance to celebrate your daughter, so do say all those amazing things you’ve always wanted to, but try not to go over the top.
Avoid mentioning any tricky family circumstances (or money)
This is not the time for any controversy whatsoever. Refrain from making any digs at your ex-wife or comments about current or past family difficulties. Also, definitely don’t mention anything about money! Save this for another time, today is all about making the bride and groom feel good.
Don’t forget the groom
Talking about the groom, don’t forget him! Your speech should be all about your daughter but remember to be nice about her new husband too and celebrate his attributes. Welcoming him into the family will be a nice touch. Gentle teasing is fine, as long as it’s warmly delivered.
Practice, practice, practice
Finally, as with many things, practice makes perfect. Try to memorise your speech, if possible, or at the least the opening lines, so you have a strong start and can make eye contact with people. Even if your day job is public speaking this is a big day and if your emotions get the better of you the best thing is to be well rehearsed. Also, if you’re struggling with speech-related nerves, we have some super-helpful tips to help banish them.